Recommended Reading

The following is a list of favorite books and resources from our counseling staff:


  • Martin, Grant. Regaining Control: When Good Things Become Addictions


  • Carter & Minirth. The Anger Workbook
  • Chapman. The Other Side of Love
  • Potter-Effron. Letting Go of Anger

Anxiety/Stress Management & Relaxation

  • Hart. Adrenalin and Stress
  • Mc Minn. Making the Best of Stress
  • Ogilvie, Lloyd J. Making Stress Work for You


  • Augsburger. Beyond Assertiveness


  • Cloud & Townsend. Boundaries
  • Cloud & Townsend. Boundaries in Dating
  • Cloud & Townsend. Boundaries in Marriage
  • Cloud & Townsend. Boundaries with Children
  • Cloud & Townsend. Boundaries Face to Face


  • Coffman, Carrie. Weary Warriors
  • Hughes, Kent and Barbara. Liberating Ministry from the Success Syndrome
  • McIntosh, G. and Edmondson, R. It Only Hurts on Monday
  • Schubert, Esther. What Missionaries Need to Know About Burnout and Depression
  • Swenson. Margin
  • Swenson. The Overload Syndrome

Children’s Stories

  • Card. Tell Me Why
  • Hample and Marshall. Children’s Letters to God
  • Lucado. Because I Love You
  • Lucado. Jacob’s Gift
  • Lucado. Just the Way You Are (formerly The Children of the King)
  • Lucado. The Song of the King
  • Lucado. Tell Me the Secrets
  • Lucado. Tell Me the Story
  • Lucado. You Are Mine (sequel to You Are Special)
  • Lucado. You Are Special
  • Mains. Tales of the Kingdom
  • Mains. Tales of the Resistance
  • Mains. Tales of the Restoration
  • Manning. The Boy Who Cried Abba
  • Sproul. The King Without A Shadow
  • Suess. O, The Places You Will Go!
  • Tada. I’ll Be With You Always
  • Tada. Tell Me the Promises
  • Tada. Tell Me the Truth
  • Trent. The Two Trails
  • Trent & Smalley. The Treasure Tree
  • Wise. The Runaway Bunny
  • Zacharias. The Merchant and the Thief


  • Chapman. The 5 Love Languages
  • Chapman. The 5 Love Languages of Children

Community (and beyond!)

  • Bierling, Wilder, & Poole. The Life Model: Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You
  • Lord, Peter. Soul Care
  • Miller, S., Wackman, D., Nunnally, E., Miller, P. Connecting With Self and Others
  • Peck, Scott. A Different Drum
  • Welch. We Really Do Need Each Other

Conflict Resolution

  • Augsburger. Caring Enough To Confront
  • Leas, Speed.  Discover Your Conflict Management Style
  • Leas, Speed & Kittlaus, Paul.  Church Fights
  • Palmer. Managing Conflict Creatively
  • Susek, Ron & Kennedy, D. James. Fire Storm


  • Wilson, Sandra. The World According to Me

Decision Making & God’s Will

  • Friesen, Garry. Decision Making and the Will of God
  • Sittser, Gerald. The Will of God As a Way of Life


  • Bloomfield & McWilliams. How to Heal Depression (free on-line
  • Burns. Feeling Good
  • Langburg, Diane. Feeling Good, Feeling Bad
  • Minirth , Meier & Arterburn. Mastering Your Moods

Family Systems

  • Chapman. Five Signs of a Functional Family
  • Friel & Friel. Adult Children
  • Friel & Friel. Adult Children’s Guide to What’s “Normal"
  • Henslin. Secrets of Your Family Tree
  • Townsend. The Mom Factor
  • Trent. Life Mapping


  • Augsburger. Caring Enough to Forgive
  • Nouwen, Henri. Return of the Prodigal Son
  • Smedes. The Art of Forgiving

Goal Setting

  • Keirsey, David. Please Understand Me

God Image

  • Hample. Children’s Letter’s to God
  • Heller. Dear God: Children’s Letters to God
  • Lewis, C.S. Chronicles of Narnia
  • MacKall. Kids Say the Greatest Things
  • Ryan & Ryan. Recovering from Distorted Images of God
  • Tozer, A. W. The Pursuit of God
  • Tozer, A. W. Knowledge of the Holy


  • Lucado, Max. You Are Special
  • McGee, Robert. Search for Significance
  • Narramore. You’re Someone Special
  • Needham. Alive for the First Time
  • Needham. Birthright
  • Nouwen, Henri. Return of the Prodigal Son
  • Payne, et al. Just Because I Am: A Child’s Book of Affirmation
  • Smedes. Pretty Good Person

Interpersonal Relationships

  • Allender, Dan. Bold Love
  • Parrott. Relationships 
  • Townsend, John. Hiding From Love

Loss & Grief

  • Bozarth. Life is Goodbye; Life is Hello
  • James & Friedman. The Grief Recovery Handbook
  • Sittser, Gerald. A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss
  • Wright, H. Norman. Recovering from the Losses of Life

Ministry Children

  • Bowers, ed.. Raising Resilient MKs: Resources For Caregivers, Parents & Teachers
  • Kerr & Kerr. You Know You’re An MK When …
  • Palmer, Catherine. The Happy Room
  • Pollock/van Reken. The Third Culture Kid Experience
  • Sanford. “I Have to be Perfect” and Other Parsonage Heresies: The Preacher’s Kid’s Manuel of the Holy Heresies You May Have Grown Up With and How to Find Your Way Back to Truth
  • van Reken. Letters Never Sent

Ministry Roles

  • Nouwen, Henri. The Wounded Healer
  • Peterson, Eugene. Working the Angles


  • Bissett. Why Christian Kids Leave the Faith
  • Borthwick. “But You Don’t Understand!”
  • Canfield. 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers
  • Narramore & Lewis. Parenting Teens
  • Wangerin, Walter. Little Lamb, Who Made Thee?
  • Warren & Minirth. Things That Go Bump In The Night


  • Dawn, Marva J. Keeping the Sabbath Wholly
  • Peterson. Working the Angles


  • Backus & Chapian. Telling Yourself the Truth
  • Backus & Chapian. Truth Talk
  • Cloud & Townsend. False Assumptions
  • Scieszka, Jon. The True Story of the 3 Little Pigs by A. Wolf
  • Stoop. Self-talk
  • Thurman. Lies We Believe

Sexual Addiction

  • Carnes. Don’t Call It Love
  • Wright. The Other Woman In Your Marriage


  • Foster, Richard. Celebration of Discipline
  • Jones, Alan. Soul Making
  • Nouwen, Henri. Way of the Heart
  • Peterson, Eugene. Contemplative Pastor
  • Peterson, Eugene. Leap Over a Wall
  • Peterson, Eugene. Run With the Horses
  • Schaeffer, Francis A. True Spirituality
  • Willard, Dallas. The Spirit of the Disciplines

Spiritual Warfare

  • Bubeck. The Adversary
  • Bubeck. Overcoming the Adversary

Surviving Abuse And Thriving Thereafter

  • Allender, Dan. When Trust Is Lost
  • Crabb & Allender, Dan. Hope When You’re Hurting
  • Langberg, Diane. On the Threshold of Hope

Other Suggested Readings

  • Aldridge, Sandra P. & Valantine, Bobbie. Heart Prints: The Power of Touch
  • Manning, B. Abba’s Child
  • Nouwen, Henri. Life of the Beloved
  • Patterson. Waiting
  • Seamands. If Only
  • Shelley. Well Intentioned Dragons
  • Walker. Husbands Who Won’t Lead, Wives Who Won’t Follow
  • Wilson, Sandra. Into Abba’s Arms